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Mareh Mekomos 118b

אָמַר רַבִּי יוֹסֵי: מִיָּמַי לֹא קָרִיתִי לְאִשְׁתִּי ״אִשְׁתִּי״...אֶלָּא לְאִשְׁתִּי — ״בֵּיתִי״,.

Furthermore, Rabbi Yosei said that he always spoke euphemistically: In all my days, I did not call my wife, my wife, ...Rather, I called my wife, my home, because she is the essence of the home

רש״י שם

לא קריתי לאשתי אשתי - שאף שיחת חולין שלי יש ללמוד הימנה חכמה:

Rashi is consistent :

ברכות נא,א

אָמַר רַבִּי זֵירָא אָמַר רַבִּי אֲבָהוּ, וְאָמְרִי לַהּ בְּמַתְנִיתָא תָּנָא: עֲשָׂרָה דְּבָרִים נֶאֶמְרוּ בְּכוֹס שֶׁל בְּרָכָה: טָעוּן הַדָּחָה וּשְׁטִיפָה. חַי וּמָלֵא. עִיטּוּר וְעִיטּוּף. נוֹטְלוֹ בִּשְׁתֵּי יָדָיו, וְנוֹתְנוֹ בַּיָּמִין. וּמַגְבִּיהוֹ מִן הַקַּרְקַע טֶפַח, וְנוֹתֵן עֵינָיו בּוֹ. וְיֵשׁ אוֹמְרִים: אַף מְשַׁגְּרוֹ בְּמַתָּנָה לְאַנְשֵׁי בֵיתוֹ.

Rabbi Zeira said that Rabbi Abbahu said, and some say that this halakha was taught in a baraita: Ten things were said with regard to a cup of blessing, e.g., the cup of wine over which Grace after Meals is recited: It requires rinsing and washing; it must be undiluted wine, and full; it requires adorning and wrapping; he takes it in his two hands and places it in his right hand, and he lifts it at least one handbreadth from the ground, and when reciting the blessing he fixes his eyes upon it. And some say: He also sends it as a gift to members of his household

רש׳י שם

לאנשי ביתו – לאשתו:

AND

מנחות מג, א

ורש״י שם

רב יהודה רמי ליה תכילתא לפורזימא דאינשי ביתיה - היה מטיל ציצית לבגד שמתכסה בו אשתו:

We can learn from the language of the Jewish People too, not just sages

Pesachim 66a 

אמרו לו רבי שכח ולא הביא סכין מערב שבת מהו אמר להן הלכה זו שמעתי ושכחתי אלא הנח להן לישראל אם אין נביאים הן בני נביאים הן

They said to Hillel: Our teacher, if one forgot and did not bring a knife on the eve of Shabbat and cannot slaughter his Paschal lamb, what is the law? Since he could have brought the knife before Shabbat, he cannot bring it on Shabbat; but what should he do in this situation? He said to them: I once heard this halakha from my teachers but I have forgotten it. But leave it to the Jewish people; if they are not prophets to whom God has revealed His secrets, they are the sons of prophets, and will certainly do the right thing on their own.

Man’s identity tied into occupation outside world 

Women’s identity tied to home and children. 

Job loss for man = infertility for woman. Loss of identity.

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