The problem: Exercises to begin the healing process, evaluate what is important and give direction on how to proceed. (10 minutes)
Answering the Why Question: Why did you do this to me, how could you betray me like that? Answers to provide clarity and make healing possible. (10 minutes)
Trauma and Addiction: The connection: Understanding the brain science behind childhood trauma and how it can manifest into addiction later in life. (10 minutes)
Formal disclosure: Withholding information causes harm and exasperates the feeling you don't know the truth and can't trust any longer. This formal process is a proven method for both partners to tell the truth, the impact it has had on the betrayed spouse and a restitution letter by the betrayer to express remorse, empathy and truth. (10 minutes)
Healing your tattered heart: Healing begins as you find your way through pain so it doesn't keep rearing its ugly head so often. (10 minutes)
Reflection and Reconstruction: As the pain subsides, exercises help you revisit memories, reclaim some, and have a newfound wisdom in seeing each situation differently. (10 minutes)
Forgiveness vs. Unforgiveness: Restoring you to wholeness and inner harmony. (10 minutes)
Release: Exercises to release the pain, anger, grief; filling it up with hope, self-compassion and tenderness. (10 minutes)
Restoration: How to rewrite your story to find meaning in suffering moving from victim to victor. (10 minutes)
Is reconciliation possible? Case studies show that reconciliation is possible. (10 minutes)
What betrayers want you to know: Explaining family of origin issues and how unhealthy attachment leads to addiction and the need of attention from others, or entitlement which leads to acting out. (10 minutes)
Tools for the betrayer. DBT and other skills the betraying partner can use to repair the relationship, discover what healthy intimacy is, finally and move toward building trust in the relationship. (10 minutes)