DEFINING THE PROBLEM (30 minutes)
-Introduction to the topic
-Literature recap
RESEARCH on VICTIMS (30 minutes)
-”The Human Magnet Syndrome”: vulnerable clients are attracted to narcissists and vice versa
-What makes a woman vulnerable?
-Self-love deficit disorder
-(Clients change in therapy and Narcissistic partner unhappy)
-(Don't bring narcissist into therapy- client will get punished.)
-Describe therapist’s natural inclination towards treatment planning and aversion to talking about sex
-Clients never ask for help in this area unless asked (examples)
-Presenting problem will be lies narcissists feeds her; underscoring importance risk assessment
-Questions
RESEARCH on PERPETRATORS (45 minutes)
-Narcissist and great first impressions
-Rape myths and the boomerang effect of empathy prompting in perpetrators
-Activities of grooming (love bombing, lack of respect for boundaries, gaslighting, introduction of a substance, intrusion, desensitization, emotional isolation, physical isolation)
-Examples each, brownie points extra
-Risk assessment
-Questions?
APPLICATION TO PRACTICE (45 minutes)
-Why “trusting your gut” doesn’t work to assess a future perpetrator
-Ask audience surefire way to assess intentions of perpetrator
-The importance of setting good boundaries- 3 steps w selective vulnerability
-How lack of respect for boundaries looks in real time, with gaslighting and eye rolling (Gottman)
-The maturity awareness approach with “emotionally immature” people (Dr. Lindsay Gibson)
ACTIVITY (30 minutes)
-Boundary setting role play
-Boundary setting activity
-Take the Therapists’ Safety First Pledge