1. Introduction. A proactive approach fosters lasting, successful marriages.
2. Learning objectives.
3. The rationale for the Marriage Meeting Program:
• The high cost of failed marriages
• New expectations for a 21st-century marriage
• Specific benefits of marriage meetings
• How marriage meetings differ from couple therapy
4. The structure of a marriage meeting in couple therapy sessions and Marriage Meeting Workshops.
5. Guidelines for marriage meetings: Time, place, etiquette
6. How to hold each part of a marriage meeting. Includes examples.
The meeting’s agenda has four sections, conducted in this sequence:
A. Appreciation
B. Chores/Responsibilities
C. Planning for Good Times
D. Problems and Challenges
7. Communication Skills for Marriage Meetings
I-Statements, Congruent Communication, Nonverbal Communication, Self-Talk, Active Listening, Giving Constructive Feedback, Brainstorming for Solutions
8. Marriage Meeting As a Diagnostic Tool, with example
9. How Marriage Meetings are Compatible with Different Therapy and Other Approaches:
- Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy
- John Gottman’s Marital Therapy Model
- Family Systems model (Virginia Satir)
- Emotionally Focused Therapy
- Imago Therapy
- Strategic Therapy approaches (Milton Erickson, Jay Haley)
- Male/Female Communication Differences
- Neuroscience/Neurobiology findings
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Twelve-Step programs
10. Multicultural and Lifestyle Considerations: African American, Latino, LGBT Cultures, Asian culture, American culture
11. Case Examples: Therapist Demonstrates Parts of a Marriage Meeting
12. How to Lead a Two-Session Marriage Meeting Workshop
Session 1 Workshop Format: Couples learn guidelines and positive communication techniques. They roleplay each part of a marriage meeting and agree to hold a meeting at home before the second session.
Session 2 Workshop Format: Participants report briefly on how their marriage meetings at home went. Review communication skills Demonstrate and role play to help fine-tune the use of tools and techniques.
13. Q & A about Marriage Meetings for clients, workshop participants, and others
14. Questions and discussion with CE seminar participants.