Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T. Clinical reflections on the Parasha through a psychotherapist lens. Using Artificial intelligence writing for defining clinical ideas and weekly Parasha study to cultivate thought provoking weekly insights.
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Embracing Flexibility: Overcoming Stiff-Neckedness (Parshat Ki Tisa)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2024-02-22 12:57:12
Parshat Ki Tisa delves into the story of the sin of the Golden Calf and the subsequent conversation between Moshe Rabeynu and Hashem related to the consequences. During this back and forth, Hashem characterizes Bnei Yisrael as a “stiff-necked people” as the motivation behind many of our struggles. The parsha provides us an opportunity to explore the psychological concept of being Stiff-Necked and the lessons we can learn to overcome t …
Sacred Psychology of Giving (Parshat Terumah)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2024-02-15 12:42:52
Parshat Terumah presents a profound exploration of the psychology of giving as it unfolds within the construction of the Mishkan. The Parsha details the meticulous instructions for creating a space on Earth to connect with Hashem. The Parsha starts by saying, “V'yikchu Li Terumah – and you should take for yourselves a contribution for me' (Exodus 25:2).” This passuk goes beyond the mere physical construction and provides valuabl …
Transformative Justice: Rehabilitation Paradigm (Parshat Mishpatim)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2024-02-13 18:12:02
Parshat Mishpatim delves into the rules set forth after the Ten Commandments, establishing a just world run through the divine providence of Hashem. While there were many commandments that the Torah could have begun this Parsha with, the focus on the acquisition and treatment of a Jewish slave provides us a profound lesson in the treatment of individuals whose life circumstances have led them astray. In considering the psychological concept of re …
Delegation: A Father in Law’s Wisdom (Parshat Yitro)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2024-02-01 17:03:22
Any one with in-laws can relate to this week’s Parsha. There are only two people in the Torah who provide criticism to Moshe Rabeynu. One is Hashem, who we see time after time providing Moshe with guidance and feedback. The second is Moshe’s father in law. Parshat Yitro presents a pivotal moment in the story of Bnei’s Yisrael’s acceptance of the Torah. Moshe Rabeynu’s father-in-law, Yitro, visits him and …
Moving Forward towards Transformation (Parshat Beshalach)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2024-01-25 15:05:16
In Parshat Beshalach, we encounter a transformative moment as Bnei Yisrael, having just left Egypt, find themselves trapped between the pursuing Egyptian army and the seemingly impassable Red Sea. The Parsha recounts the dramatic crossing of the Red Sea, the subsequent song and triumph. However, in the face of this dire situation, Moshe receives a message from Hashem that we can apply to our daily lives. Boxed in between the Sea and the Egyptians …
Breaking the Chains of the Mind (Parshat Bo)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2024-01-18 19:34:03
Parshat Bo unfolds a pivotal moment in the narrative of the Bnei Yisrael’s journey towards freedom. It contains the last three plagues, culminating with the exodus of the new Jewish nation. Amidst these dramatic occurrences, we can identify elements of human behavior leading to Pharoah’s motivation to hardening his heart and subsequently Hashem hardening his heart for him. Many classical commentators address how Hashem could take away …
Breathing Hope (Parshat Vaera)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2024-01-11 11:01:12
Parshat Vaera begins the process of instilling hope into Bnei Yisrael that the redemption is nearing. Hashem appears to Moshe Rabeynu providing him the inspiration to approach Bnei Yisrael with a message of salvation. When Moshe approaches the nation, currently in servitude, we encounter a moment of profound despair. As they are burdened by the harshness of their slavery, they are unable to heed the words of their future leader. The Passuk …
Resisting the Current: Unraveling Obedience (Parshat Shemot)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2024-01-04 11:43:23
This week we begin a new Sefer of the Torah and a new secular year. In Parashat Shemot, we encounter the powerful story of the Jewish midwives, Shifra & Puah, whose courageous defiance of Pharaoh’s decree sparked the birth of the Jewish redemption. Their actions provide us a compelling lesson going into a season where people set ‘New Year’s goals’ and attempt to better themselves based on a calendar change. Amids …
Individualized Blessings: Expressing Personalized Nurturance (Parshat Vayechi)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-12-27 19:43:31
Parshat Vayechi not only marks the conclusion to the Sefer of Bereshit, but also the end of Avot’s journey in establishing Bnei Yisrael. As Yaacov’s life approaches its end, he gathers his sons to bestow upon them his final individualized blessings, and in doing so provides us with a final powerful lesson for eternity. Yaacov takes the unique approach by tailoring his words specifically to the character, strengths, and areas of …
Reconnecting Hearts: Exploring Cutoff & Reconciliation (Parshat Vayigash)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-12-20 17:42:44
Parshat Vayigash, nestled in the heart of Yosef’s story, is a powerful account of familial strife, emotional cutoff, and ultimately, the profound journey towards reconciliation. This story not only provides a glimpse into the complexities of human relationships but also offers profound insights into the corrosiveness of emotional cutoff and the transformative power of reconciliation. Parshat Vayigash opens with the words “Vayig …
From Pit to Palace: Resilience in the Face of Adversity (Parshat Miketz)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-12-14 01:50:13
Parshat Miketz, recounts the dramatic rise of Yosef in Egypt, offers a profound exploration of the psychological concept of resilience. Yosef’s journey from being thrown into a pit by his brothers to eventually becoming a high-ranking official in Paroah’s court is a testament to the human capacity to endure and overcome adversity. The psychological concept of resilience is defined as the ability to bounce back from difficult ex …
Parental Favoritism & Sibling Rivalry (Parshat Vayeshev)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-12-06 19:04:06
Parshat Vayeshev unfolds a gripping narrative centered around the complex dynamics of the family of Yaacov. A closer examination reveals an intriguing interplay of psychological concepts, particularly birth order and sibling rivalry, as we delve into the lives of Yosef and his brothers. Humorist Sam Levenson wrote, “Siblings: children of the same parents, each of whom is perfectly normal until they get together.” While families prepar …
Confronting the Esav Within (Vayishlach)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-11-30 12:49:27
In Parshat Vayishlach, we witness Yaacov Avinu’s dramatic encounter with his brother Esav after years of separation. As Yaacov faces the impending meeting with Esav, the Parasha takes an unexpected turn - Yaacov finds himself in a wrestling match with a mysterious figure, described as the angel of Esav. The struggle is intense, and as dawn approaches, the figure touches Yaacov’s hip, leaving him with a permanent limp. Despite the toll …
Vision & Purpose (Parshat Vayeitzei)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-11-24 00:16:42
In Parshat Vayeitzei we embark on the profound journey of Yaakov Avinu, a path that not only that not only traverses physical landscapes but provides depth into human psyche. At the heart of the Parsha lies the theme of vision and purpose, two psychological concepts that guide Yaakov’s path and offer timeless lessons for ours. Helen Keller once wrote, “The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.” …
A Nation Born of Delayed Gratification (Parshat Toldot)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-11-16 11:39:55
Parshat Toldot offers a fascinating opportunity to explore the psychological concept of delayed gratification, a concept that is central to human behavior and personal development. In this Parsha, we find a compelling example of delayed gratification through Yaacov, who ultimately becomes the third and most accomplished of the Avot. The story of the Parsha primarily focuses on the struggle between Yaacov and Esav, two very different brothe …
Marriage and Love (Chayei Sara)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-11-08 12:47:43
Parshat Chayei Sara is often pointed to as the Parsha of Shidduchim, match matching, however it can offer us a powerful insight into the importance of cultivating love. One of the central themes in this parsha is the concept of love and partnership. The marriage between Yitzchak and Rivka provides us with wonderful insights to apply to our own loving relationships. The passuk says “Vayyikkach et-rivkah vattehi-lo le'ishah vayye'ehave …
Unbreakable Ties: Exploring Parental Bonds (Parshat Vayera)
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-11-02 00:40:31
Parshat Vayera provides us with a continuation of the story of Avraham on his path to becoming the ultimate patriarch of the Jewish nation. As described in the Amidah, while we channel all the Avot in the first Bracha, but we end by singling out Avraham. Rambam in the previous parsha citing a Medresh Tanchuma introduced us to the concept of “Maaseh Avot Siman L'banim - Whatever has happened to the patriarchs is a sign to the children.&rdquo …
Attitude of Gratitude
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-10-29 00:54:32
Parasha Lech Lecha begins the story of the birth of Bnei Yisrael. While many of us are familiar with the quality of ‘Chesed’ – Loving kindness being directly associated with Avraham, one of his key qualities that is understated is one of his ability to show gratitude. The Parsha provides us with keen insight into the psychological concept of cultivating an attitude of gratitude. The beginning of the Parsha states: “ …
Family Dynamics
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-10-19 02:08:15
Parshat Noach delves into the story of Noah and the great flood. The central focus of the parsha is the family of Noah, who, together with his wife, three sons, and their wives, survive the deluge aboard the ark. This tight-knit family of eight navigate the challenges of confinement and isolation during their time on the ark, offering us profound insights into familial interactions and their psychological dynamics. Family dynamics refer to …
Interconnectedness in the Beginning
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-10-13 14:09:12
This week we begin Parshat Bereshit, the inaugural Torah portion. During a week where many of us have felt our hearts physically in one place but emotionally in another place with our fellow Bnei Yisrael in Aretz Yisrael, the Parsha invites us to delve into the profound interplay of interconnectedness, both within the natural world and within ourselves as human beings. The brutality of the terrorist events in Aretz Yisrael have affected us all du …
Harvesting Joy: Exploring Sukkot and the Psychology of Happiness
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-10-02 12:43:00
As Yom Kippur comes to a close, we are quickly ushered into the Chag of Sukkot. There is a mitzvah to rejoice on all of the holidays, yet there is special emphasis on being joyful during Sukkot. The Yalkut Shimoni highlights that the Torah commands us to rejoice on Sukkot three times (as opposed to Shavuot, when we are commanded once, and Pesach, when we are not explicitly commanded to rejoice). Furthermore, in our holiday prayers, each holiday i …
A Path to Redemption: Tips from Addiction Treatment
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-09-13 13:07:03
Azarat Yemi Teshuva During Azarat Yemi Teshuva, we engage in deep introspection, reflection, and repentance, seeking forgiveness for our sins and striving to improve ourselves in the eyes of Hashem. The concept of Teshuva, or repentance, is central to these ten days. It reminds us that we are not defined by our past mistakes; instead, we have the power to change and grow. The process of Teshuva involves acknowledging our wrongdoing, feeling …
Nitzavim: Unity Through Mutual Responsibility
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-09-06 20:59:27
In Parshat Nitzavim we encounter the concept of mutual responsibility, which holds profound psychological significance pertaining to collective wellbeing. Moshe gathers the entire nation for his final address to renew our covenant with Hashem. Mutual responsibility teaches us that we are connected. Regardless of background, status, or personal journey, every individual is united in this pivotal moment, forming a collective covenant. The fi …
Ki Tavo: Empowerment through Self-Efficacy
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-08-30 17:24:57
Parshat Ki Tavo spells out the blessings and curses first introduced earlier in Sefer Devarim prior to Bnei Yisrael’s entry into Ertz Yisrael. As the Parasha ends, Moshe Rabeiynu imparts a message of empowerment to the Bnei Yisrael, reminding them of their ability to uphold the covenant and follow the commandments. He instills in them the belief that they possess the necessary skills and strength to overcome challenges by focusing on positi …
Overcoming the Bystander Effect
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-08-24 14:43:41
In Parshat Ki Teitzei we encounter various laws and ethical guidelines that address our responsibilities towards others. In the second perek of the parsha Moshe Rabeynu expresses, “lo-tireh et-shor aḥícha o et-seyo niddaḥím vehit'allamta mehem hashev teshívem leaḥícha” – “If you see your fellow Israelite’s ox or sheep gone astray, do not ignore it; you must take it back to your peer& …
Favorable Judgement
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-08-16 13:53:21
In Parshat Shoftim we learn about the establishment of a just society, through the appointment of judges and officers. While the Torah discusses the importance of impartial judgment in legal matters, it also subtly emphasizes the value of judging ourselves and others favorably on a psychological and interpersonal level. It is fitting that my Bar Mitzvah Parasha, which always falls around my birthday of Rosh Chodesh Elul, deals with judgement. No …
Re'eh: Breaking the Cycle of Self-Sabotage
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-08-09 12:58:29
In Parshat Re'eh, we encounter a powerful lesson about the choices we make and their consequences. The Torah highlights the importance of choosing to adhere to Hashem’s commandments and the potential pitfalls that come with straying from the right path. This choice reflects the psychological concept of self-sabotage, where individuals may unconsciously undermine their own well-being or success. The Parasha starts out by saying, &ldqu …
The Power of Little Things
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-08-02 13:31:24
In Parshat Eikev, we are taught a profound lesson on the importance of doing the little things, seen through the transformative impact that seemingly small actions can have on our lives and the lives of others. The opening passuk of Eikev states, "And it shall be, because you will heed these ordinances and keep and perform them, that Hashem, your God, will keep for you the covenant and the kindness that He swore to your forefathers" (Deuteronomy …
Built In Self-Care
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-07-26 13:51:20
In Parshat Vaetchanan the Aseret HaDibrot, Ten Commandments, are repeated but with some significant changes. One of the most famous changes is related to Shabbat. In Parshat Yitro, it says, “Zachor et Yom HaShabbat Lekadosho…” “Remember the Shabbat in order to keep it holy” (Shemot 20:8). In this week’s Parasha it says, “Shamor et Yom HaShabbat Lekadosho…” “Guard the Shabbat to keep it …
Constructive Criticism: A Path to Growth
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-07-19 13:00:06
In Parashat Devarim, we find Moshe delivering his final address to Bnei Yisrael before they enter Eretz Yisrael. As Moshe is entering the final days of his life, he begins to provide rebuke and criticism for the people. Using the lens of this Parasha, we can glean valuable insights into the psychological concept of providing constructive criticism. Sefer Devarim begins with the passuk: “These are the words that Moshe addressed to Bne …
Growth Mindset Journey
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-07-11 18:19:58
In Parshat Masei, we are presented with a detailed account of Bnei Yisrael’s journey through the desert. This narrative provides an opportunity to explore the psychological concept of growth mindset and its relevance to our personal and spiritual development. Psychologically, a growth mindset is the belief that our abilities, intelligence, and qualities can be developed through effort, perseverance, and learning from experiences. It …
Honoring Commitments
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-07-11 18:19:23
In Parshat Matot, we learn about the concept of fulfilling vows and oaths as commitments to Hashem. Moshe teaches Bnei Yisrael about the significance of keeping their word and the repercussions for breaking promises. The psychological principle of commitment teaches us that when we make a promise, whether to ourselves or to others, we establish an internal obligation to follow through. This principle can guide us in both our spiritual and practic …
Raising Future Leaders
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-07-05 12:26:44
Parshat Pinchas sheds light on the fascinating process by which Moshe sought a successor to lead Bnei Yisrael into Aretz Yisrael. In this search, we can discern the psychological underpinnings of the leadership qualities Moshe sought in his potential successor. By examining these qualities, we can glean profound insights into the nature of effective leadership, teach aspiring leaders, and nurture leadership in others. The Passuk says, &ldq …
The Power of Words: Unleashing Blessings or Curses
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-06-28 18:43:54
The Power of Words: Unleashing Blessings or Curses Parashat Balak By: Elan Javanfard Parshat Balak recounts the intriguing story of the Moab King, who sought to curse Bnei Yisrael through the prophet Bilam. However, through the divine intervention of Hashem, Bilam's curses transformed into blessings. While the narrative highlights Hashem’s love and protection towards us, it also provides us a profound lesson on the psychological conc …
Knowing isn’t Everything: The Insight Fallacy
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-06-28 09:21:35
Knowing isn’t Everything: The Insight Fallacy Parashat Chukat By: Elan Javanfard Parashat Chukat begins with a passage that requires further investigation due to its profound psychological meaning. “This is the law of the Torah that Hashem commanded saying, Speak to Bnai Yisrael and they should take for you a completely red cow that has no blemish and has never born a yoke.” The passage describes the mitzva …
Arrogance: Parsha’s Cautionary Tale
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-06-22 19:29:26
Arrogance: Parsha’s Cautionary Tale Parashat Korah By: Elan Javanfard Parshat Korach presents a compelling narrative that delves into the destructive nature of arrogance and the problems it can cause. Korach, a member of the tribe of Levi, challenges the leadership of Moshe and Aharon, driven by his own pride and desire for power. His story serves as a cautionary tale, teaching us the importance of humility and the perils of uncheck …
Built In Self-Care
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-06-22 00:00:00
The Power of Perspective: A Psychological Exploration
Author: Elan Javanfard, L.M.F.T.
2023-06-22 19:26:54
The Power of Perspective: A Psychological Exploration Parashat Shelach By: Elan Javanfard In this week's Parasha, we encounter an intriguing narrative that sheds light on the human psyche and the importance of perspective. As we delve into the psychological aspects of the Torah, we uncover valuable insights into the human condition and find guidance for our own lives. This Dvar Torah aims to explore the interplay between psychology and Pa …